A good explanation for why we don’t force sharing….
February 16, 2010 by Linda
Filed under Parenting From Balance©
THE DAILY GROOVE ~ by Scott Noelle
www.enjoyparenting.com/dailygroove
:: Goodness Is Inspired, Not Required ::
Situation 1:
You ask your friend what she wants for a birthday
gift, and she says, “I would treasure *any* gift
from you!”
Wouldn’t you feel inspired to give her something
very special?
Situation 2:
Another friend says, “I hope you’re getting me
something *good* for my birthday… I just *hate*
tacky gifts!”
Wouldn’t you feel like giving this friend a pile
of fake dog poop?! 🙂
The point is that you feel most inspired to please
others when you don’t feel pressured or coerced —
when you don’t “have to.”
Children are no different. They love to please others,
especially their parents, so long as their inspiration
to share pleasure isn’t confounded by implied threats
of punishment, reward, or withdrawal of approval.
Today, let go of all “required goodness” by affirming
that your child is inherently good, and is *free* to
express that goodness… and free *not* to express it.
Remember that the best way to foster children’s
authentic goodness is to let them see how much *you*
enjoy expressing your own goodness.
http://dailygroove.net/inspired-not-required