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:: Needs and Desires, Part 2 ::

December 1, 2010 by  
Filed under Parenting From Balance©

THE DAILY GROOVE ~ by Scott Noelle

:: Needs and Desires, Part 2 ::

There is no *practical* difference between a need

and a desire.

When you’re painfully thirsty, your interest in

water is perceived as a need. When you feel okay as

you are, but would *love* a drink of water, your

interest is perceived as a desire.

In other words, needs tend to focus on the painful

consequences of non-fulfillment, while desires are

more focused on the pleasure of fulfillment.

Our culture takes pain more seriously than pleasure,

so we often call our desires “needs” in hopes of

having them taken seriously (or to justify forcing

the desired outcome).

A more authentic approach is to start taking your

desires seriously. That means re-connecting with

your inherent *worthiness* — and your children’s,


Today, notice when you’re perceiving your child or

yourself to be in need. Acknowledge that the need is

valid, but then re-focus on their/your desire and

the joyful anticipation of its fulfillment…

Which focus is more inspiring?

Take the next step…

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Copyright (c) 2010 by Scott Noelle

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