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Heart Centered Listening vs Body Centered Listening.

February 12, 2016 by  
Filed under Parenting From Balance©

 

Heart centered listening is a beautiful way to gain understanding of, and empathy for the person one is listening to.  That is, indeed, very important.  But even more important is to understand how what I am listening to affects me.  If I can feel how their message is received by my body, then I have the answer that works for me!
The body level sensations reveal whether it’s a ‘Yes’ or a ‘No’ to me…. They help me understand myself and my desires a little more.  And that is the road to compassion.
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If your child (or someone else) screaming “I want to stay!!!!!” makes you want to *SCRAM* to extinguish that screeching, then you might want to take a second to feel the soles of your feet on the ground before you respond.  (And remember, responses can be non verbal; it is all about compassionate intention.)
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It is not ‘do unto others as I would like them to do unto me.’  It is, rather, ‘do unto myself as I would like others to do unto me.’
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Lots and Lots of Love,
Linda
Heart centered listening is a beautiful way to gain understanding of, and empathy for the person one is listening to.  That is, indeed, very important.  But even more important is to understand how what I am listening to affects me.  If I can feel how their message is received by my body, then I have the answer that works for me!
The body level sensations reveal whether it’s a ‘Yes’ or a ‘No’ to me…. They help me understand myself and my desires a little more.  And that is the road to compassion.
If your child (or someone else) screaming “I want to stay!!!!!” makes you want to *SCRAM* to extinguish that screeching, then you might want to take a second to feel the soles of your feet on the ground before you respond.  (And remember, responses can be non verbal; it is all about compassionate intention.)
It is not ‘do unto others as I would like them to do unto me’ It is, rather, ‘do unto myself as I would like others to do unto me.’
Lots and Lots of Love,
Linda

 

 

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